All of the this.^^^
I actually meant to watch this video ages ago. I remember seeing it come up on the My Subscriptions page and thinking that I’d watch that when I had my earphones on me – I forgot, and here I am a month later…
I love Dana Linn Bailey. I don’t know what it is specifically, but I just really like her attitude towards everything, her personality, her company (Flag Nor Fail), the way she pulls off her physique, just everything. For those that don’t know her, she’s a women’s physique competitor (and current Miss. Olympia – the most prestigious title within the sport). If you watch the video, and aren’t overly into the fitness world, your first reaction may well be something similar to what you’ll see in the comments at the start. Now, I realise that many women do not want to look like that, which is OK, because you probably never will. Unless you buy yourself some big boy sweeties and go massively out of your way to train (and eat!) to look like that, in which case, you will probably still never look like her. So, let this be your last chance to moan about how you don’t think she’s attractive.
If you haven’t watched the video, do so now. I rushed my dinner in order to write this blog, as I think this is the best response to any confidence related question I’ve ever seen. The main point that she makes is that everyone, regardless of age or gender, will have some sort of body-related confidence issue at some point in their life, whether that be they feel too fat, too thin, not muscular enough, too muscular, whatever it may be, you will probably have felt uncomfortable in your own skin at some point during your life. Some people may have a harder time with this than others, some people may have found that confidence with themselves that Dana talks about, and some people may be in the midst of a crippling bout of self loathing. Whichever point you’re at, you’ll be able to relate to what’s said in the video.
I am sat at my desk. I never sit at my desk to write blogs. I just really feel like writing about this, and yes, I’ve mentioned body image issues before, but this is going to be better, deeper, and more detailed. I hope to one day find the confidence that DLB mentions. I do wish she could bottle it up and give it to people, but I guess the result is a product of the journey. It just takes time to come to terms with yourself. It’s an ongoing thing, I’ve come a long way. Personal experience time…
I’ve never had much confidence, body image wise. I’ve only recently started wearing any colour shirt besides black, and only recently felt comfortable enough to take my shirt off when I go swimming and what not, but I remember one comment in particular that gave me the slightest bit. Now, I hope he doesn’t mind me naming names, but I remember a friend of mine, Callum Brown, saying that he wished he had my shoulders. At the time, my initial reaction was “Why would anyone want anything that’s on me?”, but the more I thought about it, the more I realised that someone genuinely found a feature of mine desirable, and if I’m honest, that was a breakthrough moment for me. I realised that a) no one was entirely comfortable with themselves, it wasn’t just me, and b) although I’m by no means perfect, I do have some features that people are envious of. Cheers Callum.
This isn’t to say that you should just settle with however you look, if you’re fat and moan about it, you probably don’t like being fat, and so you should do something about it. You can change things like your body composition, it’s in your hands. If you’re unhappy with how you look, change it (this is where taking it too far sometimes comes in, and you could end up anorexic, bulimic etc., so I admit, it’s a fine line, but you’ve just got to do what makes you happy and gives you confidence). DLB often says that she trains in a way that she loves, and it just so happens that the physique category suits her body. Yes, I’d like to be a little bit bigger, and a little bit leaner, and I don’t think I’ll ever be entirely satisfied, but I know that I’m no longer fat. That to me is a milestone. I’ve achieved that, so what’s next? Being lean, lifting heavy weight, and looking good doing it. It’s a lifestyle, this is a lifelong process.
To wrap this all up then, whatever your ideal body composition may be, strive towards it and then be confident in your own skin. Don’t expect it to happen overnight, expect some people to put you down, and appreciate compliments when given, just don’t lose focus of what you want to achieve.